Forget the forest, concentrate on the tree…

You’ll have to forgive me for being completely forthright and open right now.

You see, these past few months have been heavy and today has to be the peak of sadness for me. I just received news that a friend I dearly love lost her full term baby.

But in sadness, I found a tree.

You see, without going through all the details and horrors and complaining, I can say that life has seemed difficult lately.  I care for an aging mother, I’m a mom to two growing, inquiring children, caring for a middle aged body, and try to balance the unique stresses of my life everyday, just like you.

And it is hard sometimes.

I looked out in my backyard. An overgrown forest of weeds, broken branches, fallen trees, decaying wood, and overgrown bush that was almost overcoming my deck.

And I whacked. I took an electric saw and I started whacking and hacking and clearing away the clutter of my yard and the clutter of my head.  When the saw wouldn’t cut through it, I pulled, cut, and dragged the craziness and I cried.

It was then I noticed a Dogwood Tree…in bloom.

It seemed like years when I last saw this tree bloom. I had allowed the overgrowth to take over the small, beautiful tree.

Sometimes when we are caring for others it can seem overwhelming. Sometimes we watch the people we love struggle through life or challenges. Sometimes we struggle on our own with various burdens, sorrows, and seemingly hopeless situations.

Do you feel like it takes over your life and all you want to do is clear it up? Understand it for one moment?

I feel like that sometimes. Today, I was reminded that life is fragile.

Then, like the tree in bloom, I realized that among the clutter in life is the promise of a new day, a new bloom, a new hope.

I just needed to find it.

Do you have a beautiful tree among your forest?

 

We are each designed and created so uniquely. Even with our special needs, different abilities, sorrows and burdens, we each have the strength within us to see the potential of each new day.

Embrace it.

 

 

To learn more about The Legend of the Dogwood tree, click here. 

 

Did we forget the Greatest Love of All? Remembering Whitney Houston

In 1985, the song, “The Greatest Love of All” blared out of my radio. I was 15, struggling to understand myself, and all the changes going on in my life, my body, and my emotions.  I was a teenage girl.

Listening to that song always gave me a sense of calm, a sense of accomplishment,  and above all, a sense of understanding that I could take on the world if I could only take time to love myself-however imperfect I found myself.

As the reports, gossip, and rumors began to seep into the media about the death of Ms. Houston, I have to stop for a moment and remember this song, and at the time it hit the charts, the singer who gave it to us.  Where did that greatest love of all go?

There is so much beauty in taking time to love yourself. Not just stopping and looking in the mirror and thinking “Hey, I look good”. In fact, that is hardly what I am writing about. I am talking about the love you experience when you stop to acknowledge that YOU are an individual, created uniquely, with qualities, talents, and thoughts that no one other person can possess. You are born with different abilities that are solely and wonderfully you.  You walk in a world carrying your decisions, choices, and accomplishments that no one other person can say they own, because it is what makes you the being that is YOU!

For Whitney Houston, and all the other people in our lives who have come to us through different paths, be it radio, TV, or in personal relationship, they leave with us a gift. It is up to us to recognize that gift, receive it, and cherish it.  That too is a great love.

I am saddened that this talent has left us. As I watched the Grammy’s last night, I watched the “In Memoriam” pictures as they flashed before our eyes. Talented men and women of all musical backgrounds who had shared with us a gift of their talent.

We ALL have the ability to share a talent-whether we are heard on the radio, TV, a choir, a magazine, a blog, a soup kitchen, a homeless shelter, by an aging neighbor, a person struggling with challenges, or simply just speaking up and letting people know we love them and they are never alone.

And above all, we all should start with the greatest love of all…learning to love (accept, forgive, embrace, and care for) yourself.

Or in the word of Whitney Houston, 1985…

“And if, by chance, that special place
That you’ve been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love”

DEPRESSION! I’m too depressed to talk about it.

De…D…Depr…Depres…Dep…Depressi…Depressio…Depre…DEPRESSION

Sometimes saying the word is more work than it is worth especially if you are truly depressed.

“During depression, the world disappears. Language itself. One has nothing to say. Nothing” Kate Millet, Author and Sculptor

What is depression?

Depression can be an illness that robs one of the meaning of their life. It can smother any form of enthusiasm, well-being, sense of purpose, will to achieve and so on.  But one thing to think about, DEPRESSION IS AN ILLNESS!

If you had a cold, would you deny it? Even if it meant you could not breath?

If you had cancer, would you refuse treatment? Even if it meant a possible remission?

Depression, meaning clinical depression, has three primary types (although there are more):

Major Depression- It can last months and if left untreated can reoccur with each episode lasting longer and being more debilitating.

Chronic Depression-It can go on for years. Some people live with it an entire lifetime. Also known as dysthymia (dys meaning disorder and thymia meaning mood), it is a disorder of one’s own mood.

Bipolar Depression- can alternate between being manic or extreme elation, grandiose thoughts, and sometimes inappropriate, destructive behaviors and the polar opposite-unpredicted rapid mood swings.

There are other types of depression including Seasonal Affective Disorder, Postpartum Depression, Atypical Depression, among others. Your medical and mental health professional can determine what kind of depression you may be experiencing and supply the necessary treatment to help you overcome it.

How do you know if you are depressed?

Did you know that sometimes you can be depressed without feeling depressed?  Sometimes it is a very obvious feeling. Persistant sadness or empty mood, loss of interest, sleep disturbances, fatigue, difficult concentrating or making decisions, excessive crying, or chronic aches and pains MAY be obvious signs.

But also, moral problems, lack of cooperation, absenteeism from work, alcohol/drug abuse, and decreased productivity can be signs as well.

The best way to find out if you are depressed is GO TO A DOCTOR!

Seeking help DOES NOT mean you lack character, discipline, common sense, or personal strength.  Depression is an ILLNESS. Seeking help for any illness does not imply a lack of mental, physical, emotional or moral character. In fact, it takes courage to admit something MAY be wrong.

Sometimes treatment can include psychotherapy, counseling, or medication. Sometimes just understanding depression can lead to better treatment and long-term care. Other solutions can be increasing exercise, altering food or nutritional intake and making changes to your diet, or redefining your goals and expectations.

REMEMBER: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

Did you know many prominent and famous people suffer depression.

“I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would be not one cheerful face on earth. Whether I shall ever be better, I cannot tell. I awfully forebode I shall not. To remain as I am is impossible. I must die or be better it appears to me” From one of Abraham Lincoln’s personal diaries. Abraham Lincoln suffered depression most of his adult life.

“It’s been troubling me. Now, why is it that most of us can talk openly about the illnesses of our bodies, but when it comes to our brain and illnesses of the mind, we clam up. And, because we clam up, people with emotional disorders feel ashamed, stigmatized and don’t seek the help that can make the difference”  Kirk Douglas

Before you go ONE MORE DAY trying to live with DEPRESSION- SEEK HELP!

Some local agencies in Birmingham are:

Creative Wellness- For Families

Oasis Counseling- For Women and Children

Dr. Alan Swindall- Alabaster Family

Gateway Family Services

Grayson and Associates

Also, check with your local medical doctor for a suggestion.

You can also refer to Wellness.com  or NAMI-National Alliance on Mental Illness.

If you would like to suggest other agencies in the area that offer help and services, please feel free to comment.

Don’t let depression disable you

from living life to your fullest POTENTIAL.

Paul’s Diamonds: Helping Safehouse of Shelby County Combat Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

 

From Safehouse Facebook:

On Thursday, October 13th, Paul’s Diamond Center will host a benefit event for SafeHouse of Shelby County to commemorate Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The fundraiser will take place from 5 pm– 8 pm at Paul’s Diamond Center, located in the Colonial Promenade shopping center in Alabaster. Attendees can purchase a “diamond packet” containing one loose stone for ten dollars apiece. All “diamond packets” but one will contain a cubic zirconia. The winning packet will contain a real half carat diamond valued at $1,500. All of the stones will be tested at the end of the evening, revealing the real diamond. The benefit will also feature a silent auction. Music will be provided by renowned musician Keith “Cashmere” Williams. Proceeds from the purchase of diamond packets and silent auction items will be donated to SafeHouse of Shelby County. The event is open to the public.

SafeHouse will premier their 2011, “In the Words of a Survivor” video at the fundraiser. The video, courtesy of Tommy Wier of Cahaba New Media, describes the impact of domestic violence, and identifies the necessity for SafeHouse services in the community. Images from the 2011 No Stereotypes: An Anti-Violence Campaign will also be featured at the fundraiser.

Baby Steps 5K Memorial Run benefiting Amelia Center

Join The Amelia Center on Saturday, August 14th at Tannehill State Park for the

For more information, please click HERE!

About the Amelia Center:  The Amelia Center is a safe haven for families experiencing grief due to a death in the family. It provides counseling, events, support groups, and information. For more information, click HERE.

Survivors of Eating Disorders

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Survivors of Child Abuse

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